Believe me, I try to squash the name-calling where I see it, and I also try to avoid tarring all fans of a pairing (or character) with the same brush.
However, the argument as to which set of fans is better-behaved is always going to be subjective to the individual making the statement.
Regarding the kiss: it was from alien to alien - with both Shep and Liz under the influence, which meant that it would have had meaning to Thalen and Phoebus, but not necessarily to Shep and Liz.
The confession was from alien to non-alien, which meant that it might have had significance to Thalen and Shep; but in order for the appeal to have even a hope of working, Thalen (and Shep) had to believe that Teyla might be influenced by it beyond her basic reluctance to kill a team-mate and friend.
That is why I see the forced confession differently.
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However, the argument as to which set of fans is better-behaved is always going to be subjective to the individual making the statement.
Regarding the kiss: it was from alien to alien - with both Shep and Liz under the influence, which meant that it would have had meaning to Thalen and Phoebus, but not necessarily to Shep and Liz.
The confession was from alien to non-alien, which meant that it might have had significance to Thalen and Shep; but in order for the appeal to have even a hope of working, Thalen (and Shep) had to believe that Teyla might be influenced by it beyond her basic reluctance to kill a team-mate and friend.
That is why I see the forced confession differently.