even though later I learned that they had certain ideas about the race of the person I should marry
My cousin T had that problem: her (very traditional, very conservative) father once told her that if she married a white boy, he'd lose a daughter. About six or seven years later, his older daughter moved in with a white man, which was a terrible shock to the family (not just that he was white, but that they didn't get married first). Now, they're married with two children, but I think it was a bit of a shock to their system.
T ended up marrying a lovely Chinese guy...who's shorter than her by several inches.
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My cousin T had that problem: her (very traditional, very conservative) father once told her that if she married a white boy, he'd lose a daughter. About six or seven years later, his older daughter moved in with a white man, which was a terrible shock to the family (not just that he was white, but that they didn't get married first). Now, they're married with two children, but I think it was a bit of a shock to their system.
T ended up marrying a lovely Chinese guy...who's shorter than her by several inches.