thinking over the state of marriage

[tielan]

Lovely as are the men I know who are married, I haven't met a husband yet who has yet made me think it would be nicer to be married[*] than single.

[*] to a man, because I'm het

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[tielan]

I'm just feeling deeply cynical about the roles and expectations of women in marriage from society, their husbands, and themselves.

I mean, I've been deeply cynical for at least the last five or six years (and mildly cynical before that), but just particularly these last couple of weeks.

I'm not even envious, you know? I just...there's a part of me thinking I can't imagine anything worse than marrying a man and being a wife and mother - even with a really great, lovely, 'woke' guy.

Many years ago, I knew a young woman who thought that having a baby grow inside you for nine months was a horrific thing ("something growing inside you, like a parasite - if it wasn't human it would be the subject of a horror movie!") and she never wanted children. I think I've reached the same mental state regarding marriage and all the trimmings...