I saw one of those "High Maintenance" memes, where all the list of things are beauty-and-fashion oriented of the kind which most women are fed that they need to do/be to be considered attractive and feminine and interesting.
We can argue about the expectations of society on women until the cows come home, and also whether or not women should accept those expectations (my answer is: "no, women shouldn't, but being able to circumvent or subvert those expectations in any significant way tends to be really exhausting and puts you out on a limb if you don't happen to have really good support networks that accept you for who and what you are - and most women do not have that, even vaguely"), but the point of this is that I got riled and wrote up a post about 'high maintenance men'.
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( high maintenance men: TW for mention of DV happenings in Australian news )--
ps. I love you guys, and I'm delighted for those of you who are not in relationships with high-maintenance men,
BUT this post is
not your invitation to tell me how your man isn't high maintenance and why, also not somewhere to post why it's good to be a lesbian. I'm happy to accept that these categories don't fit everyone, but the people this message is aimed at are not actually on DW. I wrote this to get it out somewhere.