wedding clothes question

[tielan]

When my cousin T died, her widower asked her friends to come by and, if we weren't weirded out by it, to take any of her clothing that took our fancy before he sorted it out and gave it away to charity.

I wasn't weirded out - T was always beautifully put together, and for me wearing her clothing is a reminder of her style and her bright and bubbly personality - as well as her encouragement to me to push my limits in style. (I was pretty conservative in style until I hit about 30 and basically went IDGAF and wear more or less whatever I like.) So I took a couple of dresses that were not quite in my style, some jewellery, and a coat that was in a style that I particularly liked.

Today, T's widower is remarrying. A good woman, from what I can see, and trusting A's judgement of good character, and T was canvassing for a new wife for A as soon as she knew she was terminal. (I don't know if N was ever on T's radar, but they were friends at some point in the past.)

I guess what I'm wondering is whether it would be appropriate to wear "T's coat" to A and N's wedding today.

IDK.

Comments

[alexseanchai]

If you hadn't said "today", I'd say "ask their opinions"...

[tielan]

TBH. I only just realised that wearing T's clothes was even an option about 30 mins ago!

[alexseanchai]

*nod*

[james]

I think it would be appropriate! T sounds like she would be delighted that her husband has found someone to love and be loved by, and she would celebrate that.

[tielan]

I guess I don't want to, IDK, load N with further expectations of T. I mean, I can't see A choosing someone who wasn't pretty good with herself and who she is after having been married to T for 14 years, but I...kind of want to be fair to N, if you know what I mean...

[alexseanchai]

That being the case, I vote don't wear T's clothes.

[ninja007]

I know I'm a bit late, but I think it would not have been the wrong thing to do. One, A probably won't recognize anything, as guys don't notice things like that a lot. Even if he would, I don't think anyone would mind.

*hugs*

[havocthecat]

I mean, I think if T was canvassing for a new wife for A, it wouldn't be inappropriate, unless you think that A seeing you wearing T's coat would cause him pain.

[coeur_de_noir]

Probably a wee bit late, but I'd say that if you are questioning it, then there is a chance that it won't be well received (otherwise you wouldnt give it a second thought!)