the peculiar distance that facebook affords

[tielan]

Today was a bad day on Facebook.

I found out some friends I stayed with about 10 years ago are separated. She referenced being a single mum, and I went "what?" (in my head) and went looking.

It's one of those things that just throws you, and I've been kind of grumpy all afternoon because of it. I've never wanted to be married - not the way some women do. If I met someone and we decided to be together, then that was fine. But I never felt that I've been shorted just because I never met someone I wanted to spend my life with.

Yes, there are moments of envy of friends who seem to have great marriages, great relationships. But I imagine they have moments of envy of the things I do and the places I go - no husband or kids to wrangle, just me (okay, me and the cats).

I guess it doesn't help that I recently discovered another friend whose marriage I thought was pretty even-handed isn't so much. Again, through FB.

And FB was also responsible for me discovering that a friend who was married to another friend a dozen years back has married someone else, and I have no idea what happened to his first wife.

IDEK, world. IDEK.

Comments

[gaffsie]

I think you and I are of the same opinion when it comes to children and marriage; well, not counting the cats, since I'm allergic. ;)

[tielan]

I understand people who want to be married; I just don't feel that urgently about it...

[theladyscribe]

Oh man, I had that happen with friends of mine from college. They were a year behind me in school, got married when they graduated, and are no longer together (all of this has happened within the last five years). I'm still not sure what happened, exactly.

[tielan]

It's disconcerting. And a bit depressing, too. I'm having feelings about it.