ponderings on friends and friending memes

[tielan]

I put my name down on the SG1/SGA friending meme.

However, since my favourite SGA character is Teyla and my favourite SGA pairing is John/Teyla, I doubt I'm going to get any new friends out of it. The most-disliked character (or least-liked, anyway) and most-disliked pairing on SGA? Never let it be said that I in any way, shape, or form, run with the crowd! At any rate, I daresay that the other friending meme is going to be a bust for people like myself, who aren't McShep, Shweir, or Teynon (or whatever they're calling it).

I thought about running a friending meme for fans of Teyla: just for fans of Teyla. But I seem to be a bit of a black sheep in fandom these days. Hold the 'wrong' opinions. Say the 'wrong' things. Don't support the 'right' characters or the 'right' pairings in the 'right' ways. Hell, half my f-list avoids this LJ for one reason or another! Do I have any hope of getting total strangers involved in such an undertaking?

And even friends-of-friends would probably be a bust: the people I could count on to propagate this meme don't have large f-lists and aren't heavily involved in fandom. They might not even want to expand their f-lists.

Am I arguing myself out of doing this? Possibly. In fact, quite probably. But the fact is, a lot of Teyla's fans seem to have gone underground - and we who remain aren't exactly the cool kids. Now are we the uncool kids because we like Teyla, or is Teyla just liked by the uncool kids?

(No offence intended to any of my f-list reading this who are Teyla-fans. But you have to admit, we're not exactly a chatty, involved, super-popular bunch. Well, maybe you are! But I'm not.)

So what I'm basically asking is whether there's anyone reading this who'd pimp a Teyla-oriented friending meme, or knows of people who'd answer a Teyla-oriented friending meme run by me. (I think it's a valid question: there are at least three people I know of who are fans of Teyla but would rather slit their firstborn's throat than touch anything I'm involved in.)

It would be nice to expand the f-list with Teyla-fans (preferably productive ones) before the S4 spoilers start seeping out.

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I was going to watch Heroes: Hiro tonight. But all I wanna do is sleep.

Comments

[missyvortexdv.livejournal.com]

*snorts at your description of the average shippers fair* So true. I'm not one to go for that either. I like it dark, complicated, twisted most of the time, though I can do fluffy on occasion. But yeah, I lose patience a bit with the overzealous one ship forever and ever mindset which is why I never got going with S/T even though I do like it. After my experiences on the GW thread I can't abide with a lot of the S/T people and simply avoid going near them, with you and a few others being exceptions. The sockpuppet thing over there made me wary, too.

Similarly, I didn't get into Ronon/Teyla, a ship I had a passing interest in that could have gone further, because most of the people are also squeeful OMG they're so doing S/Wers and I didn't see it likely I'd find enough people tolerant of the fact I don't do S/W - plus I can't get into R/T fic when 90% of the time S/W accompanies it.

Hence, I'm rather happy with how nice people are in M/W section of SGA fandom, and on the forums I run for M/W, because rarely is anyone much like that and it's really easy going shipping with variety/multishipping, that's nice to experience and feels sort of rare to me.

[tielan]

I'm afraid I haven't had much McKay/Weir in me in the last couple of years - I can't quite see Elizabeth really putting up with Rodney at all anymore - the same way I can't see her putting up with Sheppard (if Sheppard was even interested). Still, I can see McKay/Weir working better than I can Shep/Weir.

These days, I can see Rodney with Teyla, Ronon, or Carson. Elizabeth would take a lot of work, and Shep/McKay... *wince* I'm not sure if it's the fanon that's turned me off it, or the fact that I get the buddy-buddy vibe shoved in my face in canon all the time.

And, yeah, the Teyla/Ronon fandom angle annoyed me as well. It's like convenience 'shipping - get the whore other woman out of the way and our OTP can reign! (And since TPTB, Joe Flanigan, and Torri have nixed Shep/Weir repeatedly in interviews and comments, and the show isn't about 'shipping anyway, TH's recurring status is not "getting the other woman out of the way" - contrary to certain opinions.)

I like Teyla and Ronon as friends - I get a better friendship vibe from them.

[missyvortexdv.livejournal.com]

I must say I have had a hard time reconciling show events with M/W in S2 in particular, though S3 it's been better. Though somehow, whatever happens I know I'll alwayd have M/W plot bunnies in my head, I simly can't get them out - just how it is.

I can see Rodney with others but I rarely find a fic I enjoy for another McKay pairing. I'm not in any way against McShep for example but I'm so picky about what fic I read for it and sometimes get a more than a little put off by some slash fans being so adamant about it's existence in a "OMG how can you not see their snarky love!" way and practically discounting all het as inferior. Hence, I'd be more into the main slash but I can't find the true love for it that a lot of people in the fandom harbour.

So, yeah my my fandom love as of late has been for secondary pairings (Kav/Simpson get out of my brain XP) or Teyla ones of many kinds as I seem to multiship her far too much, plus increasingly wishing for good just character fic, which you know seems quite rare still sadly. Even just good friends fic is hard to find which dissapoints me.